- Original Teaching: Train Them Up
- Date: July 13, 1980
- Location: Calvary Temple in Sterling, VA
- Teacher: Pastor Star R Scott
- Scripture: “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22:6
- Review By: Jason Felton
Last week as we began our series on training up our children we saw that we as parents (and even grandparents) are responsible to raise our children up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. The Word of God should be the absolute and final authority in our households. This week, as we conclude this short series we want to look at the consequences of compromising for our children and what will happen if we deviate from God’s Word.
The first thing you need to realize is that your family is under attack! Satan is after your children, and it would bring him no greater pleasure then to bring them down! The responsibility you have as parents is to train your children for this wrestling match we call life. Prepare them to battle the principalities and powers of darkness they will face as they mature. You can’t do this using natural means or carnal weapons. This can only be done through exercising our spiritual weapons (like God’s Word) that are mighty through God to the pulling down of strongholds (2 Corinthians 10:4).
The promise of Proverbs 22:6 will not work for you if you are just instructing your children. If you just instruct your children you have no guarantee that they won’t go to hell. In fact, there’s a good chance they might. Only those who are training by experience (24/7) will see these promises manifested! Don’t just teach your kids about Jesus. Lead by example. What is the environment like in your home? Do you train your children according to the Word of God and then live contrary to it? How about the standard in your house? Is it the same standard that your children are being taught in Sunday School, or do you live by a different set of rules? You see, your children are watching you! You can teach them all you want about Jesus, but if your life is contrary to that standard they are going to do what you do! What one generation tolerates, the next generation will worship!
Another way our children can learn by experience is by disciplining them. Proverbs 22:15 says that, “Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child, but the rod of correction shall drive it far from them.” This is something that is absolutely frowned upon in today’s society, but it is something that is plain as day in the Bible. In fact if you are interested in doing a study there are 5 other verses in Proverbs that speak to this subject (Proverbs 13:24, 19:18, 23:13, 23:14, and 29:15). Let God be true and every man a liar. Our children don’t need to be put in timeout. They don’t need to hear no, no, no. Our children need to experience the training of the rod of correction to drive the foolishness out of them. Now here’s the key. I am in no way condoning any sort of physical abuse or harm towards our children. That is contrary to the Word of God, and God will deal with those people accordingly. What we are talking about is administering this correction in love and certainly not out of anger. The parent on the other end of this rod should be somebody who can speak the Word of God to their children and be able to say, “Do as I say AND as I do.”
Parents, I know this isn’t an easy thing to hear and it’s certainly not easy to do, but consider this. Everyday you hear in the news media stories of physical child abuse. Well, there is a child abuse that is far, far greater than that. It’s been going on for centuries. The worst form of child abuse is letting children grow up and live in a world that is bound by Satan and go to Hell without anybody ever teaching them the Word of God! What a tragedy!! Do you want that to be your testimony as parents? Well when you don’t apply God’s Word that is what you’re doing. When you compromise for your children you are paving the pathway to Hell for them because you love yourself more than them. You would rather not have them feel bad. You don’t want to feel bad correcting them, all you’re doing is setting them up on a tee for Satan! You cannot withhold correction from your children!! If you will choose to correct your children according to God’s Word, you will deliver their soul from Hell (Proverbs 22:14). That is the responsibility we have as parents!!
So as we end for today choose to do it God’s way! The worldly wisdom of doing everything possible to protect their psyche and boost their self image and awareness doesn’t work. But, if we train up our children in the way that they should go, when they are old they will not depart from it. What a promise! I don’t know about you, but I want to get my family to heaven. I want to present them to the Lord and say, “Of all you’ve given me Lord, I’ve lost NONE! It’s a high calling, but one that is absolutely worth it!