- Original Teaching: Adam’s Rib
- Date: January 7, 1996
- Location: Calvary Temple in Sterling, VA
- Teacher: Pastor Star R Scott
- Scripture: “And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, this is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called woman, because she was taken out of man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” Genesis 2:22-24
- Review By: Jason Felton
Today as we conclude our month long series on Adam’s Rib we want to take a look at how the principles we’ve reviewed on headship, helpmeet, and lovers are practically working in the lives of some of our members at Calvary Temple. Tony and Katie Delsignore, Josh and Stephanie Bright, and Daren and Amy Becker have been gracious enough to share their testimonies of a Godly marriage with us. Check them out!!
TONY AND KATIE DELSIGNORE
When I think about marriage, my heart is overwhelmed with thankfulness for a wife who loves Jesus more than she loves me. As Jason touched on in his series on Adam’s Rib, the center of every great marriage is Jesus Christ. Although Katie has gone through several major physical trials during our first few years of marriage, her faith in Jesus has never wavered.
No matter what we may face in our marriage, I know that we are going to come back to the Word of God. In fulfilling my role as the leader of our home, it is exciting to know that I have a wife who is always going to point me back to Jesus.
My wife, Stephanie, and I have been happily married for just over 8 years, and we have 2 beautiful little girls (3 and 1 years old). Though we never dated, we knew alot about each other, having gone to the same church, Calvary Temple in Sterling, VA, our entire lives. We’re so thankful for the biblical principles that we have learned through the series and book Adam’s Rib by Pastor Star R. Scott. We also both had the privilege of watching our parents live out a godly marriage as we grew up in their homes.
We both read Adam’s Rib before marriage, and so we entered our relationship with the same goal – try to out-serve one another! Jesus gave His life for us, and now He has given us the opportunity and commandment to pour our lives out for each other. We also share the common goal of serving the Body of Christ as much as possible. Actually, you could say that is how we met! I was leading kids’ praise and worship during our midweek service, and she was my piano player. Our Pastor always says to serve God with all your heart and marry the person who is serving right next to you. That is definitely our testimony and one that continues to this day.
It’s not all sunshine and roses, of course, just like any marriage. There are times we don’t see eye to eye on things, or display selfishness instead of that servant’s heart. Sometimes it can seem like we don’t even speak the same language. But the beautiful thing about our marriage is that it’s centered on Christ and His Word. Whenever we disagree or are selfish, we always come back together and ask, “What does the Word say about this?” If we can’t determine it ourselves, then we go get counsel.
When I accepted Jesus as my Savior 20 plus years ago, I thought I knew what marriage was – getting the handsome guy who makes lots of money so that you could live in the right neighborhood and send your kids to the right schools, etc. But I soon learned, that that is not necessarily God’s plan for marriage. Our Pastor always says that if two people love God more than themselves, their marriage will work. And that God’s plan is that two are better than one and that each is to help the other make it to heaven and become more like Jesus! And hopefully that is what we have done.
Daren and I met at Calvary Temple over 20 years ago – both looking to serve Jesus. We have been married for almost 20 years and it has been more than I ever imagined marriage to be. Throughout the years you go through tests and trials that show you who you are in Jesus. As both of us have committed our lives to Him, there is no doubt what our choices will be when the trials come. We have always tried to go to the Word of God when making decisions and seek counsel from the godly counselors around us. While we may have disagreements, there has never been an irreconcilable fight. We have no doubt that the other will do and bring the truth from God’s Word.
Currently, we are the parents of 2 teenagers. And while we thought raising toddlers was hard, this is a different type of “hard.” It is our faith in Jesus and his finished work that allows us to stand and believe that they will make the right choices as we walk it out as examples before them. We are acutely more conscious of the fact that we are the representation of Jesus to them in practical, everyday life and that if they love Jesus and walk as we do, they will finish the race, too.
So, while my idea of marriage has changed, I still got the handsome guy. And our God has blessed us abundantly with 2 kids that love Jesus; and that as a family we can represent Him to a lost and broken world.
These 3 testimonies are just a small portion of dozens of Godly marriages ranging from 1 year to over 40 years that we are privileged to have at Calvary Temple. So if you’ve read through these blogs and thought these standards for marriage are impossible, I encourage you to think again. With God all things are possible! In a day and age where the divorce rate is skyrocketing, we need HIM as the Lord of our lives and at the center of our marriages now more than ever!