- Original Teaching: Adam’s Rib
- Date: January 7, 1996
- Location: Calvary Temple in Sterling, VA
- Teacher: Pastor Star R Scott
- Scripture: “And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, this is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called woman, because she was taken out of man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” Genesis 2:22-24
- Review By: Jason Felton
In part 1 of our series on Adam’s Rib, we looked at the woman’s role as helpmeet and her responsibility to come along side and support her husband. Last week in part 2, we saw that the husband has been designated by God to be the head of his house and that he is to love his wife as Christ loved the church. This week we want to look at how these two roles work together to produce a Godly marriage that is pleasing unto the Lord.
The most important thing in having a successful marriage is that God has to be at the center. If God is not at the center of your marriage you will not be able to function properly in the roles He designated. We all know the first and great commandment right? Love the Lord your God with all of your heart, soul, mind, and strength. The second great commandment is to love your neighbor as yourself. If you are not loving God as you should be and giving your life for Him it will be impossible to do the same for your spouse. True Biblical marriage has to be based first on God’s love (agape love) and not a natural, earthly love. Your love for your spouse will be in direct correlation to your love for your heavenly Father. There is no other way!
Another thing that is vital to a Godly marriage is that His word MUST BE the final authority IN EVERYTHING! There are times in marriage where there are going to be disagreements or conflict. Sometimes it seems like we speak a different language. That old adage may say, “Men are from Mars, and women are from Venus,” but if they’re born again, they both speak the Bible! It’s always important in these times to come back to the Word of God. That is the quickest way to resolution in a marriage that puts God first. Ladies, your opinion on the situation is not the final authority, God’s is. Men, your word in the situation is not the final authority, God’s is. Romans 3:4 says, “Let God be true, but every man a liar.” Well, God and His Word are one. If you are bringing anything to this situation except the Word of God then it needs to be thrown out. Husbands, if your wives are bringing you the Word of God, listen. Wives, if your husbands are bringing you the Word of God, listen. His word is truth, and it needs to be held up as the standard in our households! Anything else is compromise, and it will destroy your marriage!!
Have you been detecting a trend in this series of blogs? It’s all about selflessness. That is the last point we want to talk about today. If we are going to be effective in our roles we must prefer one another. A Godly marriage is one of giving and not receiving. In fact the best marriages are ones where each spouse is trying to out-give the other. Everything in this day and age is screaming independence. In our marriages we don’t need to be independent. We need to be dependent upon God, and we need to be dependent upon one another. Acts 20:35 says, “It is more blessed to give then receive.” So in our marriages we need to be willing to lay our lives down for one another. We need to esteem the other better than ourselves. A godly marriage will not work if self is at the helm.
As we wrap up our series, I hope you’ve been able to identify some things in your life that need to be changed or improved upon so that your marriage can be strengthened. After all that is the point, right? God has joined us together so that we can strengthen one another. He has brought us together to help each other finish this race. Is that what your energy is being spent on in your marriage? Or has it all been about your temporal or natural desires? We need to purify ourselves even as He is pure. As we are doing that we are to be doing the same for our spouses. Jesus is coming for a bride that is without spot or wrinkle or any such blemish. Now don’t be discouraged, nobody is perfect and our marriages certainly aren’t perfect. However, we are to be striving for that perfection by provoking one another to love and good works. That’s why He has joined us together! Because two are better than one!
I hope you’ve enjoyed our look at Adam’s Rib. Next week join me on this subject one last time as we will have some exciting testimonies from some of our couples at Calvary Temple. Hopefully it will help you see that what we’ve been talking about isn’t a pie in the sky fantasy, but it’s a reality that is working in many lives and can be in yours too. I hope you’ll join me.