- Original Teaching: Adam’s Rib
- Date: January 7, 1996
- Location: Calvary Temple in Sterling, VA
- Teacher: Pastor Star R Scott
- Scripture: “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.” Ephesians 5:25-27
- Review By: Jason Felton
As February rolls on we want to continue to review a series Pastor Star R. Scott did back in 1996 entitled “Adam’s Rib.” In our last blog post we looked at the woman’s role in marriage as help meet and how they are to come along side of their husband with an attitude of submission to bring assistance and support. Today, it’s the guys turn as we look at their role and their responsibility to be heads of their households.
As we begin to speak toward the husband’s role, the first thing we need to understand is that the man’s role is one of subordination. “Wait Jason, I thought that was the woman’s role?” Yes, the woman’s role is one of subordination to her husband. However, there is somebody that the husband has to report to as well and that is Jesus Christ. Ephesians 5:25 says “we are to love our wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself for it.” Men, you are to be head of your wife as Christ is the head of the church. That’s a pretty high calling! We know that Jesus loved us so much that he willingly laid down his life for us. And just as we saw last week that the ladies can look to Jesus as the one who showed the ultimate form of submission. Guys, we can look at Jesus as the one who as the head of the church became servant of all and gave His life for it. So if you want a proper husband and wife relationship always look to Jesus and how he related to his heavenly Father and the church (the bride of Christ).
Men, if you are going to be the head of your household, you better know the Word of God. Your primary responsibility in your role as husband is to sanctify your wife. To be continually pruning, purging, and cleaning her with the Word of God. To be able to present her (as well as your children) as a bride without spot, or wrinkle or any such blemish. This cleansing is not just a knowing of the Word, but living it before her. Leadership and headship are by example! If you’re going to be champion of your household, you are going to have to give yourself to the same degree that Jesus did. You must give yourself over to Jesus’ Lordship. You’re not doing your own will, but the will of He that sent you. So what’s your job men? To perfect your household so that they can bring glory to God and serve in His kingdom. There’s no greater calling or measure of success!
Something that is absolutely out of whack in this day and age is true Biblical order in our marriages. Men are to be the heads of the house and not the ladies. Man cannot be subordinate to his wife, period. Yet, what’s going on in our society today? There is a move to make husbands and wives totally equal. As we saw in scriptures last week, that is clearly not how God set things up. Men, your role is not to serve your family! Your role is to serve God and lead your family! Now, I can hear all the men right now saying, “AMEN, PREACH IT BROTHER!!” Well, let’s step back for a second. Even though we are the head, we need to clearly understand that this headship is not lordship. Headship doesn’t mean we are to be dominating or lording over our wives. Your job isn’t just to go around all day and tell her what to do, and her job isn’t to bring you coffee and doughnuts while you are laying on the couch being lazy all day. You are not the king of your house; Jesus is. You may be the head of the house, but your not king. You are a man of authority over all that comes under your domain, but you are representing the will of God.
Men, in order for you to be a good husband you first have to be a good man. Titus 2:2 says that men are to be sober, grave, temperate, sound in faith, in charity, in patience. Do you have these character traits working in your lives? Are you living a pure and holy life before your family? Are you sound in your faith in the Word of God? Are you as loving and patient with your wife and children as your heavenly Father is with you? If your answers are anything like mine, then we’ve got some things to work on! To be a man of God is going to cost you your self will. The greatest of all will be servants. You cannot be self willed and be a Godly leader.
As we close for today, guys, realize your wife has to be your treasure. She should be beautiful in your eyes and you need to tell her this. Tell her how much you love her and treasure her. You want a Godly wife that walks in order and is submissive to you? Then be a Godly husband who loves and cherishes his wife as his own body (Ephesians 5:28-29). So, as we’ve examined each others roles the past couple weeks we realize that we both as men and women have a great responsibility to lay down our life for one another. In next week’s session that is what we want to take a little closer look at. We want to see how a Godly marriage should operate when we both know our roles and are totally committed to Jesus first and then one another. I hope you’ll join me for part 3!