- Original Teaching: Adam’s Rib
- Date: January 7, 1996
- Location: Calvary Temple in Sterling, VA
- Teacher: Pastor Star R Scott
- Scripture: “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.” Ephesians 5:22-24
- Review By: Jason Felton
Hopefully everybody enjoyed last week’s blog post on “Acting the Love of God”. With Valentine’s day right around the corner I wanted to take some time this month to discuss how to show God’s love in our marriages. God being at the center is vital to any successful marriage. In a day where the divorce rate hovers right around 50% (even in the professed church!) it’s important that we understand what the Word of God says about marriage and how it defines each of our roles. Today we want to look at the role of the woman as help meet.
It’s important that we first look at where this term help meet comes from and what it’s meaning is. Genesis 2:18 says, “And the Lord God said, it is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” The word help meet is used to describe someone who lends ballast or balance. It is somebody who surrounds for the purpose of bringing aid or assistance. Women, you were created for man by God to be a help meet. Your role in a Godly marriage is to come along side and bring support and offer assistance to your husband. There’s no other way around it! This is how God intended it to be.
Ephesians 5:24 makes it very clear that the wife is to be in subjection to her own husband in everything. This word subjection is actually a military term meaning “to rank under”. Ephesians 5:22 says that wives are to submit themselves to their husbands as unto the Lord. Now I’m sure for most ladies the terms subjection or submit makes your blood boil. It’s so foreign to how our society views a woman’s role in marriage. However, we’ve seen three scriptures here in God’s Word as to how He set up a woman’s role in marriage. Now, in no way shape or form am I saying that women are inferior or are worth less then men. But, the Bible makes it very clear that man is not of the woman, but woman is of the man. Let God’s Word be true and every man a liar.
“Well I’m not submitting myself to any man! I am woman here me roar.” Well, you better not get married then. If you want control or the final say in your life then don’t get married. Because the fact is you’re third in line. Jesus is first, then your husband, then you! There’s no other way. It’s God’s order. If you’re married (or you get married) you will be in subjection to your husband in EVERYTHING! “Yeah, but my husbands an idiot!” Well you married him so….. “But I know more then Him in this area!” Hmmm, let me look at what this word everything means again. Yep, just as I thought the word everything means EVERYTHING! You are to submit to your husband in everything (and this is important) that is in agreement with the Word of God. If your husband is trying to get you to do something contrary to God’s Word then that is the only condition where you should not submit. Because the head of every man is God!
If you want to bring a curse into your home, then just usurp your husband’s authority. Satan will bring deception into your house along with destruction and chaos. It’s why so many marriages are in shambles today. Because of broken order. You can’t be saved and be in rebellion to your husband, PERIOD! Your prayers will not be heard (I Peter 3:7) because you are living contrary to the Word of God. You want to truly show your husband that you love him? Obey God’s order. There is no greater expression of love than for you to walk in obedience to God’s Word and fulfill your God-given role. Jesus gave us the ultimate example of submission by laying His life down and submitting Himself to the will of His Father even unto death. Ladies, you’re in good company!!
I know this isn’t an easy subject to hear, but it’s God’s way. And God’s way is the only way to have a successful marriage. It can be a difficult concept to grasp, because in this country we have everything backwards. It’s all over TV, internet, and radio right? The Ladies are the ones that are in charge, and the men are just bumbling idiots who can’t get out of their own way. We’ve turned into a matriarchal society and that’s not God’s order. Let me leave you with some practical sound doctrine from Titus 2 that will help you in your role as a Godly wife. Obey your husbands, love your children (even enough to discipline them), and take care of your homes! If these things are out of order and you are more concerned about your appearance, or your schedule, or what you want then your life is out of order. Wives, submit to your husbands in everything! Ladies, if you’ll fulfill your role as help meet then you are on your way to having a Godly marriage!
Now men we haven’t forgot about you! You guys have a big role in this thing too and that’s what we are going to talk about next week. We’ve seen today how the women are to conduct themselves as help meets, but in the next blog we are going to look at how you as men can help them fulfill their role as a Godly wife by being a Godly husband. I hope you’ll join me!! I’m sure the ladies can’t wait!! “Get ’em Jason!” Don’t worry we will!